It's A Promise

I truly believe that in today's world, romantic relationships are the biggest social challenge we face. Relationships are scary, uncomfortable, and uncertain. You can never read the mind of the other person to determine what he/she is thinking about you, about your status, about the future, which makes you self-conscious, anxious, and a whole host of other unproductive emotions.

That being said, one of the most important things you can do when considering, beginning, or continuing a relationship is you and your relationship with God. A great theme that is splattered all over the Internet in the form of various quotes is the notion that falling in love with God will help guide you to the love you are meant to find on Earth. We are all naturally meant to seek someone else. As humans we are just one half of a whole that can only be truly completed when we find the love that God intended for us.

We will never be able to find that earthly love if we do not have that heavenly love with God first. One of my favorite quotes is "Imagine a man so focused on God that the only reason he looked up to see you is because he heard God say 'that's her'." We should not only have this expectation of our significant other, but also for ourselves. We must hold ourselves to the same standard as the person we are seeking. When we do this, we will be better prepared to enter into that relationship.

Last week in RCIA, we discussed the sacrament of matrimony, which inspired the thoughts behind this post. We date people with the intention of eventually committing to marrying one of them.

Marriage is about making a lifelong promise to someone. But this promise is not just to the person we are marrying. It is also a promise to God. Marriage is a lifelong promise between three entities: you, your spouse, and God. When you get married, you are giving your word to God.

I recognize that I am not married and I have no experience from which to speak on this matter. But what I do have is hope. And desire. And trust. I know that by establishing my relationship with God, I will have a foundation for a beautiful marriage grounded in a promise between me, my future spouse, and God.

The most important part of this whole equation is that I need to focus on myself and my relationship with God first. I am moving through life, focusing on God, and when he tells me to look up and meet someone, I will. But for now, do not panic or worry or stress about being alone or finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. Just be you and love God and trust that one day God will provide you with what you are seeking.

"Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise."  ~Hebrews 10:23

Pax,
Kay